© 2008 Dream Merchant • 2309 Torrance Blvd. #104, Torrance, CA 90501 (310) 328-1925 email: Jkm316@aol.com THE KEY TO SUCCESS IS TO STOP FEARING FAILURE--HERE'S HOW!
By David Hurley
The "Fear of Failure" is one of the key obstacles to achieving your goals, and one of the key success secrets of those who achieve their goals is knowing how to recognize this common fear and how to overcome it.
Happily, just as it is possible to program the mind with a negative mentality, so it is possible to reprogram the mind with a positive mind set. In fact, a large number of the leading success mentoring experts you hear about today are people who have come through much tribulation of mind and suffered from just such a fear of failure. They found out that it is possible to "reprogram" the mind, and so they applied that insight to their own lives, broke out of their old mentality of fear and limitation, and achieved unparalleled success.
You too can reprogram your "mental default setting" and switch it from "negative" to "positive," from fear and self-doubt to courage, confidence and self-affirmation.
Here are six pointers to help you overcome your fear of success and get your mind to shift from negative thinking to positive thinking.
1. Understand How Fear Works to Thwart Your Plans--Success does not come without setbacks or obstacles, but in spite of them. When your fear of failure is too large, obstacles will occur as reasons not to continue. It is not actually the obstacles that stop you, but your lack of confidence, which causes you (like Pliable in Pilgrim's Progress) to turn back at the first sign of difficulty.2. Cut Yourself Some Slack--Don't stress yourself out on a new project. Instead, give yourself a break, hang loose and relax for a while. Leisure activities and relaxation will refresh you, put you in a positive frame of mind, and give you the space to find renewed inspiration.
3. One Small Step at a Time--Instead of trying to tackle an ambitious project head on, break it down into small, easily-achievable steps. Write each step down as milestones on the path to the overall goal. As you complete each small step, you will grow in confidence and feel motivated to move on to the next task.
4. Start By Doing Something You're Good At--Work on something you enjoy and are good at in order to build up your sense of self-esteem. By gradually increasing your confidence like this, it will become easier for you to take on those projects that hitherto have triggered your habitual fear of failure.
5. Talk to Yourself and Boost Your Self-Esteem--The root cause of the fear of failure is usually low self-esteem. Learn to carry on a positive inner dialogue with yourself and tell yourself about all the things you're good at. Learn to trust what you say to yourself about yourself more than the opinions of others.
6. Surround Yourself with Positive People--If those who are close to you tend to put you down, your low-self-esteem and fear of failure will be constantly reinforced by spending too much time in their company. Rather than spending too much time in a negative environment, seek out new companions who will offer you positive support and feedback, people who share common goals--even if you have to turn to the Internet to find them.
By following the six steps I've outlined here (each one a "success secret" in its own right), you'll progress towards a new positive "can do" mentality and see your fears for what they are--nothing more than chimeras of the mind.
David Hurley is a regular contributor of articles on success mentoring, success secrets and Internet marketing strategies. Did you know that you can get a fortnight's access to 50 of the top success mentoring experts for just a token $2 donation to charity? Learn more and stop fearing failure. Visit:
http://grasp-the-nettle.com/articles.html
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